Have you ever ask yourself this Question.
“Why did I attract this person into my life?”
I know your time is valuable, so I’ll get straight to the point:
The answer is surprisingly simple…and has everything to do with YOU and your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.
(More on the subconscious by clicking the link below…)
Your subconscious mind has what are called “unconscious polarized issues” that are “Anchor beliefs” coming from your childhood...
These subconscious ‘programs’ and your husband/partner’s issues are like magnets attracting each other...
...And strangely enough...by resolving these SUBCONSCIOUS programs…it is exactly what is needed to ‘heal’ yourself, possibly your partner and overcome your current relationship issues…
Understand this and you are on the road to Personal Freedom.
SEE IF THIS SOUNDS LIKE YOU…
• My worthiness feelings about myself stem from receiving approval from someone else
• Other people’s struggles affect my tranquility
• My mental attention focuses on solving others problems/relieving others pain
• My good feelings (about myself) developed from being liked by someone else
• My mental attention is focused on others
• My fear of others anger controls what I say or do
• My psychological attention is focused on manipulating others to do it my way
• Relieving others pain reinforces my self-esteem
• My own hobbies/interests are put to one side for other people
• My timetable is spent sharing others hobbies/interests
• Others clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires and I feel others are a reflection of myself
• Others behavior is dictated by my wishes and I feel others are a image of me
• My emotional attention is focused on protecting others
• I am not aware of my feeling deep inside
• Solving others problems bolsters my self-esteem
• I am aware of how others feel
• I am not conscious of what I want
• I ask what others want
• I assume the aspirations I have for my future are linked to others
• My fear of rejection governs what I say or do
• I use charitable acts as a way of feeling safe in my relationships
• I put my personal values aside in order to connect with others
• I value others opinion and others ways of doing things more than my own
• The worth of my life is in relation to the quality of others
If these sounds anything like you…then you’re likely codependent.
The characteristically dysfunctional codependency ‘tango’ (or relationship cycle) requires two conflicting but distinctly balanced partners:
The pleaser/fixer (codependent) and the taker/controller (narcissist/addict).
Codependents — who are giving, sacrificing, and obsessed with the needs and desires of others…do not know how to emotionally disconnect or avoid passionate relationships with individuals who are narcissistic…individuals who are selfish, self-centered, controlling, and harmful to them.
Codependents- habitually find themselves in a relationship cycle attracted to partners who are a perfect counter-match to their uniquely passive, submissive and compliant personality style.
Codependents- are natural followers in their relationship cycle,
Codependents- are passive and accommodating partners.
So how can YOU STOP from being such natural follower & step into you leadership potential?
Keep Reading...
Codependency- is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioral condition that is learned and then stored in the subconscious…it affects your ability to have a healthy relationship with others.
Codependents- generally are in (or develop) emotionally destructive relationships that are one-sided; pleasing oriented and therefore become abusive.
Many Psychotherapists now call Codependency: “A Relationship Addiction”.
Codependency can also manifest as Love Addiction, Avoidant or Dependent Personality Disorder or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
There is a CURE!
You may not-yet-have-experienced…
…YOUR POWER TO CHANGE!
I’ll explain the Empowering Counselling Method that worked for me—with a proven success rate.
Click here to learn more:
http://codependency-treatment-cure.webs.com/
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NOTES:
The naturally structural “codependency dance” needs two reverse but remarkably healthy partners: the pleaser/fixer (codependent) and the taker/controller (narcissist/addict).
Codependents — who are providing, compromising, and absorbed with the needs and wishes of others — do not know how to psychologically detach or avoid romances with those who are narcissistic — those who are self-centered, self-centered, managing, and dangerous to them. Codependents constantly end up on a “dance floor” drawn to associates who are an ideal counter-match to their exclusively inactive, submissive and acquiescent dance design.
As organic supporters in their connection dance, codependents are inactive and flexible dance associates. So how can they quit being such organic followers?
Codependents discover narcissistic dance associates greatly attractive. They are constantly drawn to their appeal, boldness, assurance and domineering character.
When codependents and narcissists couple up, the dance encounter sizzles with enjoyment — at least in the beginning. After many “songs,” the fascinating and fascinating dance encounter obviously converts into dilemma, issue, emotions of ignore and being stuck. Even with disorder and issue, neither of the two spellbound performers dares to end their collaboration. Despite the tumultuous and conflict-laden characteristics of their connection, neither of these two reverse, but dysfunctionally suitable, dance associates experience forced to sit the dance out.
When a codependent and narcissist come together in their connection, their dance originates flawlessly: The narcissistic associate preserves the cause and the codependent follows. Their positions seem organic to them because they have actually been exercising them their whole lives. The codependent reflexively gives up their power; since the narcissist grows on management and energy, the dance is completely synchronized. No one gets their feet walked on.
Typically, codependents give of themselves much more than their associates send to them. As nice — but nasty — dance associates, they seem to be stuck on the oasis, always awaiting the next music, at which time they naively hope that their narcissistic associate will lastly understand their needs.
Codependents mix up caretaking and compromise with commitment and really like. Although they are extremely pleased of their relentless commitment to the individual they really like, they end up sensation not valued and used. Codependents desire to be liked, but because of their option of dance associate, discover their goals unrealized. With the heartbreak of unsatisfied goals, codependents quietly and bitterly take their disappointment.
Codependents are basically stuck in a design of providing and compromising, without the chance of ever getting the same from their associate. They imagine to enjoy the dance, but really harbour emotions of rage, rage, and disappointment for not taking an active part in their dance encounter. They are assured that they will never discover a dance associate who will really like them for who they are, in contrast to what they can do for them. Their low self-esteem and negativity exhibits itself into a form of discovered vulnerability that eventually keeps them on the oasis with their narcissistic associate.
The narcissist professional dancer, like the codependent, is drawn to a associate who seems ideal to them: Someone who lets them cause the dance while making them experience highly effective, qualified and valued. In other words, the narcissist seems most comfortable with a dance partner who suits up with their self-absorbed and strongly self-centered dance design. Narcissist performers are able to sustain the route of the dance because they always discover associates who absence self-worth, assurance and who have low self-esteem — codependents. With such a well-matched partner, they are able to management both the professional dancer and the dance.
Although all codependent performers desire balance and balance, they continually destroy themselves by selecting a associate to whom they are originally drawn, but will eventually dislike. When given a chance to quit dance with their narcissistic associate and completely sit the dance out until someone healthy comes along, they generally choose to continue their structural dance. They challenge not leave their narcissistic dance associate because their deficiency of self-esteem and self-respect makes them experience like they can do no better. Being alone is the comparative of sensation alone, and solitude is too agonizing to keep.
Without self-esteem or emotions of personal energy, the codependent is not capable of selecting mutually providing and at all adoring associates. Their option of a narcissistic dance associate is linked with their subconscious inspiration to discover a individual who is acquainted — someone who is similar to their not able and, perhaps, stressful child years. Unfortunately, codependents are most likely children of mother and father who also completely danced the structural codependent/narcissistic dance. Their worry of being alone, their coercion to management and fix at any cost, and their comfort in their part as the martyr who is constantly adoring, dedicated, and individual, is an expansion of their wishing to be liked, well known, and taken care of as a child.
Although codependents desire of dance with an at all adoring and re-inifocing associate, they publish to their structural success. Until they decide to cure the emotional injuries that eventually persuade them to dance with their narcissistic dance associates, they will be intended to sustain the stable defeat and defeat of their structural dance.
“Why did I attract this person into my life?”
I know your time is valuable, so I’ll get straight to the point:
The answer is surprisingly simple…and has everything to do with YOU and your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.
(More on the subconscious by clicking the link below…)
Your subconscious mind has what are called “unconscious polarized issues” that are “Anchor beliefs” coming from your childhood...
These subconscious ‘programs’ and your husband/partner’s issues are like magnets attracting each other...
...And strangely enough...by resolving these SUBCONSCIOUS programs…it is exactly what is needed to ‘heal’ yourself, possibly your partner and overcome your current relationship issues…
Understand this and you are on the road to Personal Freedom.
SEE IF THIS SOUNDS LIKE YOU…
• My worthiness feelings about myself stem from receiving approval from someone else
• Other people’s struggles affect my tranquility
• My mental attention focuses on solving others problems/relieving others pain
• My good feelings (about myself) developed from being liked by someone else
• My mental attention is focused on others
• My fear of others anger controls what I say or do
• My psychological attention is focused on manipulating others to do it my way
• Relieving others pain reinforces my self-esteem
• My own hobbies/interests are put to one side for other people
• My timetable is spent sharing others hobbies/interests
• Others clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires and I feel others are a reflection of myself
• Others behavior is dictated by my wishes and I feel others are a image of me
• My emotional attention is focused on protecting others
• I am not aware of my feeling deep inside
• Solving others problems bolsters my self-esteem
• I am aware of how others feel
• I am not conscious of what I want
• I ask what others want
• I assume the aspirations I have for my future are linked to others
• My fear of rejection governs what I say or do
• I use charitable acts as a way of feeling safe in my relationships
• I put my personal values aside in order to connect with others
• I value others opinion and others ways of doing things more than my own
• The worth of my life is in relation to the quality of others
If these sounds anything like you…then you’re likely codependent.
The characteristically dysfunctional codependency ‘tango’ (or relationship cycle) requires two conflicting but distinctly balanced partners:
The pleaser/fixer (codependent) and the taker/controller (narcissist/addict).
Codependents — who are giving, sacrificing, and obsessed with the needs and desires of others…do not know how to emotionally disconnect or avoid passionate relationships with individuals who are narcissistic…individuals who are selfish, self-centered, controlling, and harmful to them.
Codependents- habitually find themselves in a relationship cycle attracted to partners who are a perfect counter-match to their uniquely passive, submissive and compliant personality style.
Codependents- are natural followers in their relationship cycle,
Codependents- are passive and accommodating partners.
So how can YOU STOP from being such natural follower & step into you leadership potential?
Keep Reading...
Codependency- is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioral condition that is learned and then stored in the subconscious…it affects your ability to have a healthy relationship with others.
Codependents- generally are in (or develop) emotionally destructive relationships that are one-sided; pleasing oriented and therefore become abusive.
Many Psychotherapists now call Codependency: “A Relationship Addiction”.
Codependency can also manifest as Love Addiction, Avoidant or Dependent Personality Disorder or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
There is a CURE!
You may not-yet-have-experienced…
…YOUR POWER TO CHANGE!
I’ll explain the Empowering Counselling Method that worked for me—with a proven success rate.
Click here to learn more:
http://codependency-treatment-cure.webs.com/
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
NOTES:
The naturally structural “codependency dance” needs two reverse but remarkably healthy partners: the pleaser/fixer (codependent) and the taker/controller (narcissist/addict).
Codependents — who are providing, compromising, and absorbed with the needs and wishes of others — do not know how to psychologically detach or avoid romances with those who are narcissistic — those who are self-centered, self-centered, managing, and dangerous to them. Codependents constantly end up on a “dance floor” drawn to associates who are an ideal counter-match to their exclusively inactive, submissive and acquiescent dance design.
As organic supporters in their connection dance, codependents are inactive and flexible dance associates. So how can they quit being such organic followers?
Codependents discover narcissistic dance associates greatly attractive. They are constantly drawn to their appeal, boldness, assurance and domineering character.
When codependents and narcissists couple up, the dance encounter sizzles with enjoyment — at least in the beginning. After many “songs,” the fascinating and fascinating dance encounter obviously converts into dilemma, issue, emotions of ignore and being stuck. Even with disorder and issue, neither of the two spellbound performers dares to end their collaboration. Despite the tumultuous and conflict-laden characteristics of their connection, neither of these two reverse, but dysfunctionally suitable, dance associates experience forced to sit the dance out.
When a codependent and narcissist come together in their connection, their dance originates flawlessly: The narcissistic associate preserves the cause and the codependent follows. Their positions seem organic to them because they have actually been exercising them their whole lives. The codependent reflexively gives up their power; since the narcissist grows on management and energy, the dance is completely synchronized. No one gets their feet walked on.
Typically, codependents give of themselves much more than their associates send to them. As nice — but nasty — dance associates, they seem to be stuck on the oasis, always awaiting the next music, at which time they naively hope that their narcissistic associate will lastly understand their needs.
Codependents mix up caretaking and compromise with commitment and really like. Although they are extremely pleased of their relentless commitment to the individual they really like, they end up sensation not valued and used. Codependents desire to be liked, but because of their option of dance associate, discover their goals unrealized. With the heartbreak of unsatisfied goals, codependents quietly and bitterly take their disappointment.
Codependents are basically stuck in a design of providing and compromising, without the chance of ever getting the same from their associate. They imagine to enjoy the dance, but really harbour emotions of rage, rage, and disappointment for not taking an active part in their dance encounter. They are assured that they will never discover a dance associate who will really like them for who they are, in contrast to what they can do for them. Their low self-esteem and negativity exhibits itself into a form of discovered vulnerability that eventually keeps them on the oasis with their narcissistic associate.
The narcissist professional dancer, like the codependent, is drawn to a associate who seems ideal to them: Someone who lets them cause the dance while making them experience highly effective, qualified and valued. In other words, the narcissist seems most comfortable with a dance partner who suits up with their self-absorbed and strongly self-centered dance design. Narcissist performers are able to sustain the route of the dance because they always discover associates who absence self-worth, assurance and who have low self-esteem — codependents. With such a well-matched partner, they are able to management both the professional dancer and the dance.
Although all codependent performers desire balance and balance, they continually destroy themselves by selecting a associate to whom they are originally drawn, but will eventually dislike. When given a chance to quit dance with their narcissistic associate and completely sit the dance out until someone healthy comes along, they generally choose to continue their structural dance. They challenge not leave their narcissistic dance associate because their deficiency of self-esteem and self-respect makes them experience like they can do no better. Being alone is the comparative of sensation alone, and solitude is too agonizing to keep.
Without self-esteem or emotions of personal energy, the codependent is not capable of selecting mutually providing and at all adoring associates. Their option of a narcissistic dance associate is linked with their subconscious inspiration to discover a individual who is acquainted — someone who is similar to their not able and, perhaps, stressful child years. Unfortunately, codependents are most likely children of mother and father who also completely danced the structural codependent/narcissistic dance. Their worry of being alone, their coercion to management and fix at any cost, and their comfort in their part as the martyr who is constantly adoring, dedicated, and individual, is an expansion of their wishing to be liked, well known, and taken care of as a child.
Although codependents desire of dance with an at all adoring and re-inifocing associate, they publish to their structural success. Until they decide to cure the emotional injuries that eventually persuade them to dance with their narcissistic dance associates, they will be intended to sustain the stable defeat and defeat of their structural dance.